You Can’t Tell That Pig What to Do

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And they say/ Ani what’s with all this love shit/ and I say/ don’t you ever/ just/ get distracted?  – Ani Difranco

Jumping in with Gordon and Jason about the recent rash of complaints we’ve all gotten about the various directions our blogs have taken, let me share something with you:

I have written 621 blog posts, which is over 300,000 words.  A book is 50,000 words.

Charmers.  That’s a lot of fucking words.  It can’t all be about technique.  It can’t all be about tips ‘n tricks.  It can’t even be about all the things you liked best.

The blogosphere has changed a lot, ducklings.  Most of you don’t even read my blog at a computer, you read it on your phone.  Reading it on your phone means you’re commenting less.  Commenting less means it’s less of a conversation, especially since many people aren’t even really blogging anymore.

At first, I hated this because I hate change and I like lots of ways to measure how many people are actually reading what I’m saying and now that’s just about impossible.  I missed the conversation (and I still do).  I miss hearing other people’s voices (are you still there?  I’m still listening).

However, it’s been exhilarating too because it’s forced me to really focus on what I want to write about because there is very little easily generated posts based off of blogosphere chatter now a days.  In terms of technique, I can safely say there’s well over a book’s worth of it in here already.

And . . .I’ve changed.  The way I interact with magic and the occult now is very different than it was five years ago.  I don’t feel like I have anything to prove anymore.  I write because if I don’t write I’ll die.  I will always be a writer first, a witch second.

If you can’t see the magical opportunities in finding the beauty and darkness within yourself, if you can’t understand how being a glamorous motherfucker can only help you in ever aspect of your life, if you can’t see the magic in forging a relationship with your Muse. . .then maybe you’re just not that into me.  I am not for everyone.  This homespun silk thread that I call magic, that I call the divine, that I call home is all that I have to offer.  If it’s not for you, then you need to find your others.  Or better still, become a beacon yourself by sharing your inner sanctum with the world.  It’s scary and it’s painful and it’s hard, but we need more beacons.  More than we need more clergy.  By a lot.  Together, we can be a forest of tealight hearths.

Light your candle and shine as brightly as you dare and then just a little brighter.


Deborah Castellano
Deborah Castellano's book Glamour Magic: The Witchcraft Revolution to Get What You Want is available for purchase through Amazon, Llewellyn and Barnes and Noble.
Her frequently updated catalogue of published work is available on Author Central.

She writes about Glamour Magic here at Charmed, I'm Sure. Her podcast appearances are available here.

Her craft shop, The Mermaid & The Crow specializes in old-world style workshop from 100% local, sustainable sources featuring tempting small batch ritual oils and hand-spun hand-dyed yarn in luxe fibers and more!

In a previous life, Deborah founded the first Neo-Victorian/Steampunk convention, SalonCon which received rave reviews from con-goers and interviews from the New York Times and MTV.

She resides in New Jersey with her husband, Jow and their cat, Max II. She has a terrible reality television habit she can't shake and likes St. Germain liquor, record players and typewriters.  


13 Responses

  1. I miss the commenting and the conversation, too (and I *am* still reading this on a computer, with a real keyboard and everything). I miss the jumping-off points and the interlinking. I still do it, but it doesn’t necessarily result in a lot of yacking back and forth.
    I’m surprised that you’re getting complaints – or was this just that one thing that Jason got?
    Look. I *love* reading about magical techniques. I love reading about interacting with gods (so your Dealing With The Muse posts are fine and dandy by me). I admit, I’m not sure what the purpose of posting your Glamour Boards actually is – Is it inspiration? Visuals as to something you want to get across? Clickbait (er… unlikely)? Sharing what you use to invoke The Mojo into your life? – but that doesn’t mean I don’t think they’re pretty. I’d just like to know what they’re for, if anything, beyond Being Pretty.
    Let me know?
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  2. Well, I’m here, reading and thinking and being inspired and inviting my Muse to kick my ass, and making myself show up for so many uncomfortable goddamn things, and that’s because of you.

    I’ll stop by the comments more often. Thank you.

  3. Yep, desktop and keyboard here too! 🙂

  4. I am still here and reading but I came over from Livejournal-world so I love the non-magical technique posts and love just reading about your POV and life.

  5. I just started following you and this is exactly the stuff I need to be reading right now. I look forward to digging through all your archives, I love everything I’ve read so far! Glamorous motherfucker stuff, especially. 😉

  6. Third try the charm?

    So, the earlier comments I made had to do with me collapsing your two worlds a bit — I don’t think you need to see your witchcraft and writing as separate. They’re part and parcel of the same thing, which is a life more wonderful and one-derful and more of your own devising, than the one which was more or less selected for you at random. (and I still write and comment from my laptop, by the way).

    The notion of tea-light hearths appeals to me a great deal, of course. I’d love to have overlapping readership and commentership with you and Gordon and Jow and Sam and Jason of course, but at the moment dissensus rather than consensus seems to be the name of the game. We light our candles, they light theirs, and we each offer our light and power and strength as a place of hope in the darkness. And it makes the darkness as a whole more inviting. May the silk thread you offer likewise be a guideline in difficult places.
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  7. I love what you write because I feel you speak directly to that part of me that is reaching for my inner magic. I love that you celebrate kitchen witchery, because that is where I am. I love your style of writing because it is accessible and entertaining and inspiring. I read on my laptop because I’m a cheapskate and don’t want to pay for a bigger data plan on my mobile. I didn’t realise you’d been getting complaints – please don’t listen to those people. x
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  8. The following observation is something that occurred to me while reading Gordon’s reaction to Jason, but since you chimed in with your inimitable wit, I’ll grace your blog with this comment.

    When I hear that people are bitching (and let’s face it, that’s how it is best characterized) about a lack of “tech” lessons on magic blogs, I can’t help wonder if they are the very same people who for a while were very superiorly bemoaning the fact that so much blog content was “magic 101”, and nobody was writing about “advanced” magic. Whatever that is.

    Well, FFS, writing about magic-as-a-means-of-exploring-life-and-the-universe IS advanced magic isn’t it?

    Speaking as an aikido teacher, the difference between beginner and advanced aikido is not the techniques. Advanced aikidoists work with the same techniques as beginners, but they are taught how to unpack those techniques and find more hidden inside them. The longer you practice aikido, the less you concentrate on the techniques and the more you concentrate on what goes on in your consciousness while you are performing them.

    Just a thought.
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