So, I’ve watched Florence + The Machine’s Rabbit Heart (Raise It Up) about um five billion times this week.
* Why am I never invited to parties like this? RO, could we combine our Big Blogosphere Meetup Jamboree for this to be the day portion? Formal fae attire will be required, dancing and human sacrifice optional.
* I have wanted a chemise a la reine for quite some time because I have a secret Marie Antoinette fetish (really, that shouldn’t be surprising), so I’m going to have one made for me on Etsy because I’m going to two fairy events this year I can wear it to and I hold out hope for our Jamboree.
* I don’t want to call this video, like, a guaranteed ecstatic trance experience or anything mostly because I don’t want to be bothered by whiners, but for me, five times in a row in and . . .I’m out like a trout.
* Despite this promising information, Jow is totally trance resistant, even though I came to this revelation at work under the influence of no drugs, alcohol or even a fun environment.
* I think it says a lot about us that I’m mediation resistant (Oh man! Rules! I have to fucking schedule this in! I’m supposed to just, like empty my brain even though I’ve taken a lot of time and energy to fill it with important information about who’s banging who and who’s mad at who both in real life and on telly, uck! I don’t even think I want to be enlightened. Boring. I’ve banged my head against this for like a full year in the ADF dedicants program to find that hey! You know how you have a generalized anxiety disorder and you take meds for it? Remember all those terrible things that you’ve been through that you went to therapy for an extended time to work through to continue to function on a daily basis so you can go to work and be a working member of society? Remember how you don’t really care about being enlightened or Getting to the Next Level? Hey, maybe you should leave that shit alone and not stir it all up again for a v. nebulous to you purpose as you can do magic just fine without an extended meditation practice) but pro-trance/ecstatic experience and Jow is exactly the opposite (what! I have to depend solely on my own experience? There’s no empirical data to give me an exact blue print? It just happens? I have to do any number of things like dance, drink, drum, sweat lodge, use kava, go to a festival or listen to Florence + the Machine until I want to bang my head against the keyboard repeatedly? I said good day, Sir!).
* I do trance experiences before bed most nights before going to bed to go to my internal hearth. When I am super sick and cannot clean my actual house, I clean my internal hearth. When I don’t have much money (which is always), I can make elaborate offerings to my gods on my beach and hang with them.
* I like trance because . . .sometimes I get performance anxiety pressure about random things, like I can’t feel feelings on command, which was an issue about my wedding which was to be THE HAPPIEST DAY OF MY LIFE OR ELSE!!!11!!! If I am dying for a trance experience and want one on command, I can do one of two things:
a) Attend a sweat lodge because for me, it’s going to happen there as . . .that’s what it’s designed to do.
b) Go to a goth club, drink three shots of tequila or goldschlagger and start dancing. I will feel the booze burning in my blood and if I dance until I get to the woozy is this a good idea or bad idea, who cares keep dancing, it will happen.
* Otherwise, it happens for me when it happens for me. I don’t have to plan for it, it’s usually when I push myself as far as I can go and then push myself just a little further. This tends to happen for me when: massively housefraus’ing, dancing, parties at my house, drinking just slightly past my comfort zone, cons, and festivals. I enjoy the happy surprise aspect of it.
* Look. I know I’m supposed to be, like, above the buzz but while while I do agree with Jason that if your goal is target driven, the less buzz, the better. However, if it’s just celebratory, game on, in my opinion. My practice is distinctly Hollow One, my life tends more towards Cultist of X/mermaid/nymph. So, This was really difficult as I was leaving my maidenhood which was more conducive to such practices. As a mother (not literal), I figured out:
a) It’s a party when I say it’s a party, bitch. Meaning, anything can be with the right attitude
b) I channeled some of the energy into creating a hearth, fashion, cooking, a magical practice, writing and crafting
c) I throw a lot of parties
d) The booze at my house is always top shelf which is a big plus
e) I need to get my buzzy ya-yas out at least quarterly or I start to get antsy and then I start looking for trouble. This is easy enough to head off. Arisia con gets my kitchen witch yayas out *and* the after parties get my CoX bits out. The Fairy Festival is all about soaking in the glamour during the day and making poor drinking (and sometimes otherwise) decisions with friends in a field in a farm in the middle of nowhere with a big bonfire.
* When I am tranced out, I can generally see into the squishy insides of people and because I’m tranced out and my filter is zero, I NEED to make these observations OUT LOUD to the person. It’s a dice roll as to how that’s received. It’s also why I’m not tranced out for like 90% of my life.
* But generally I try to keep my trance revelations introspective so as to not alienate everyone around me (well, for that reason at least). Rabbit Heart, both the lyrics and the video describe exactly how I feel inside right now.
This is a gift, it comes with a price
Who is the lamb and who is the knife?
Midas is king and he holds me so tight
And turns me to gold in the sunlight
I must become a lion hearted girl
Ready for a fight
Before I make the final sacrifice
We raise it up, this offering
We raise it up
I’m getting exactly what I wanted in my life and I’m becoming the person I’ve worked really hard to be my whole adult life, but it doesn’t come for free all of these things. In the video, she’s the guest of honor at this wild fairy party but, like so many of our myths, she’s the one who’s sacrificed at the end (v. prettily of course, which is what I too would demand, if you’re going to out, go out like homegirl Ophelia) which I’ve sort of interpreted for my own life that yeah, I’ve got all the things I’ve wanted – home ownership, a hearth, good relationships, lots of loved ones, a blooming writing and crafting career, a blooming kitchen witch practice, love for my body, forgiveness for my past, comfort in my own skin. But it won’t always be easy, I’ll be plagued as I always am with self doubt, I’ll have to work really hard, I’ll have to make sure I can *keep* these things and I will have to fight like hell to be the person I want to be and have the life I want to life, I need to not get too bogged down by material things and be fierce with all my heart.
Before I too am floated out to sea.