In this modern first world life, maintaining your boundaries can be a constant struggle – the friend who calls at 3a on the regular crying about her messy love life, the mother in law who wants to be a little too involved in your life, your sister constantly claiming she just wants to do one thing like go to the doctor’s with the lure of hearing the baby’s heartbeat and then ropes you into going on two or three errands after.
Okay, the last one is totally my problem. But, boundaries are a big issue because it requires a lot of balance, some quid quo pro and not getting bogged down by all teh feels.
First, it is vital for you to do some hacking and slashing in your life. Are you part of any organizations that you’re only lukewarm about, but they take up a lot of your time and energy? They’ve got to go. With loved ones, it’s often not easy to just cut them out of your life for a whole mess of reasons. Hopefully one of those reasons is “because I love them and they are part of my support structure when they are not being a complete and utter pain in my ass”. . .Read the rest at my PaganSquare Blog